I’ve just been reading Anne Lamott. On a trail hike with a friend who has a terminal diagnosis, she noticed groups of tourists. But: “Who knows what tragedies these happy tourists left behind at home? Into every life crap will fall …
I was sad and horrified to read this American study of 344 widowed fathers who had lost a spouse to cancer and were raising dependent children.
According to the men, 38% of mothers had not said goodbye to their children before death and 26% were not at all ‘at peace with dying’.
Studies show that if a doctor’s intention is to listen deeply to a patient, it only takes about 18 seconds to have a moment experienced by the patient of “being with,” of good connection, of “feeling seen”—and then of being more open to revealing personal information.”